Explore The Possibilities

by Patricia Dischler Patricia Dischler is an author, professional speaker and consultant helping those who care for and about children to make a difference. Learn more at www.patriciadischler.com. Curiosity is intrinsically linked to problem solving. A quest for answers, a desire to find them, these skills come naturally to children, but often get lost over time as curriculums become filled with specific outcomes and remove the element of possibilities. In order to preserve a child’s capabilities for problem solving, teachers can foster an overall atmosphere for children that will encourage their questions and their sense for exploration. It begins by staying completely open to possibilities – in the children’s abilities

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Ensuring the Safety of Your Child’s Daycare

by Patricia Dischler Patricia Dischler is an author, professional speaker and consultant helping those who care for and about children to make a difference. Learn more at www.patriciadischler.com. As parents, reading stories of daycare centers that have lost children, tied the legs of babies or given the wrong formula to an infant with severe allergies, sends shivers up our spine. We become frightened for our own children’s safety and begin wonder if there is anything we can do to protect them. The good news is that there is something we can do! The following five tips will help you to get a better idea of the safety at your child’s

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10 Things Every Birthmother Wants Adoptive Parents To Know

by Patricia Dischler Patricia Dischler is an author, professional speaker and consultant helping those who care for and about children to make a difference. Learn more at www.patriciadischler.com. I often told my son’s adoptive mother how much I loved her and was thankful she was a part of my life. But, like many things I’ve told her over the years, Kathy would already know. Back in 1985 I chose open adoption for my son. Being a birthmother has changed my life forever, and I know that becoming an adoptive parent changed Kathy’s too. We’ve traveled the road of adoption together, with respect and honesty. We’ve shared our hopes, our fears

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The November 30th Adoption Book of the Day – “Secret Thoughts of an Adoptive Mother”

The Adoption Book of the Day for today is “Secret Thoughts of an Adoptive Mother” by Jana Wolff! This book is a rather blunt guide to the fears and experiences that many adoptive mothers have. Written specifically for adoptive mothers, Wolff addresses the issues they face with overcoming infertility and ultimately deciding on the journey of adoption. In addition to discussing issues with overcoming infertility, Jana Wolff also addresses many difficulties that are specific to adoption. Because in her own life Jana Wolff is part of a transracial and open adoption triad, she is able to explain such processes. In chapters entitled “Friendly Racism” and “Meeting Your Child’s Mother”, Wolff

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The November 19th Adoption Book of the Day – “The Post-Adoption Blues”

The Adoption Book of the Day for today is “The Post Adoption Blues: Overcoming the Unforeseen Challenges of Adoption” by Karen J. Foli and John R. Thompson! While many reviews call this book depressing or a “downer”, Foli and Thompson’s ability to honestly explain and describe the issues that occur after adoption takes place. The book is structured as a list of expectations that adoptive parents have once adoption has occurred. This book not only accurately defines each expectation that is listed, but also helps explain that some of these expectations are not realistic and gives solutions to adoptive parents in how to cope with the stress and frustrations that

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November 13th Adoption Book of the Day – “Adoption is a Family Affair”

The Adoption Book of the Day for today is “Adoption is a Family Affair: What Friends and Relatives Must Know” by Patricia Irwin Johnston. If you are considering adoption, buy this book as a gift for the important people in your life. It may save you some heartache in the future. This book was written for the parents of us adopters and for our siblings and close friends. It is a pretty good attempt at introducing adoption and the facts involved. It also echos that our loved ones should be supportive of our decisions regarding adoption. One of my favorite lines is, “With you or without you, these children will

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Adoption Book of the Day – “ABC Adoption & Me”

Today’s Tapestry Books Adoption Book of the Day is ” ABC Adoption & Me” by Gayle Swift with Casey Swift. An adoptive coach/mother wrote this award-winning picture book with her now-adult daughter. It captures the child’s perspective and explores the spectrum of adoption. One adoptee commented: “This shows adoption from the kid’s side and made me feel normal.” Using the familiar concept of the ABCs, it helps children explore complicated material. ABC makes it easy to talk about the serious and often difficult parts of adoption. The book helps raise a family’s “AQ” (Adoption-attuned Quotient) and make a healthy adoption dialog a normal and safe topic, one parents need not dread

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Orphanage Care

It is common for children who have been adopted (in particular at an older age and those adopted from institutional care) to display a developmental age different from their chronological age. A child’s chronological age is their age based on their date of birth. A child’s developmental age is the age at which they function emotionally, physically, cognitively and socially. A child may be five years old at the time of adoption, but developmentally they may display behaviors that make them seem much younger. Understanding that there is often a difference between a child’s chronological and developmental age at the time of adoption, and for a period of time after

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Orphanage Care: When Your Child Comes Home

by Megan Montgomery It is impossible to offer a nurturing environment that meets the needs of each individual child within an orphanage. No orphanage is capable of providing the same quality of care as a family. With that said, each orphanage will be different. Orphanages have varying levels of financial support, staff dedication and additional resources. Even the most dedicated staff will struggle without the other two and vice versa, without dedicated staff no amount of money or resources in the world could make up for quality staff. OrphanageCareChild-to-care-giver ratios in orphanages are often seriously disproportioned. Whether there are 9 children or 19 per one caregiver, there will inevitably be

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Thoughts on Re-homing from an Adoption Professional

by Megan Montgomery The media has recently been covering the topic of “re-homing.”  Re-homing occurs when an adoptive family locates someone else to take in and care for their child without checking into the new family’s history, completing background checks, or involving their adoption agency or other legal entities in the change of custody.  Interestingly, the term “re-homing” is not familiar to many within the adoption community. I think most people felt speechless when they first read the articles. How could anyone leave a child with a complete stranger? What would possess someone to think this was the best option? Certainly, desperate people will do desperate things, but this seems

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