How To Address Adoption with Grandparents ~ From Both Adoptive Parents and Birth Parents

by Michele Fried I remember countless stories of expectant parents I met with over the years who cried at the thought of sharing with their parent or parents that they were pregnant.  It had nothing to do with their age.  I sat with young teens and women in their forties who just were frightened or embarrassed to share the news.  Of course if they weren’t going to share the news that they were pregnant, sharing an adoption plan was out of the question. What is it about parental support that is so important to us no matter how old we are?  For those women who allowed themselves the peace of

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Famous Birth Parents and Their Experiences

by Michele Fried I remember reading a painful account written by Roseanne Barr as she described falling to her knees and begging the paparazzi not to leak the story of her having a child at the age of 17. In 1970, when she was 17, Barr had a child that she placed for adoption. Brandi grew up happily with her adoptive family. Barr found Brandi to avoid the media from approaching her first. They still have a relationship today. Several famous birth parents have shared their experiences with an unexpected pregnancy. When Kate Mulgrew became pregnant as an unmarried woman in 1977, she placed her child for adoption. Her pregnancy

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Birth Parent Legal Risk

by Michele Fried Keep in perspective that deciding on adoption is a courageous, difficult choice and some birth parents will struggle with their decision to make an adoption plan for their baby, a birth parent may change his or her mind and request the return of the child. Disruption of an adoption plan after placement is rare, but almost always results in emotional turmoil for the adoptive parents and birth parents. Wow, that paragraph is scary, isn’t it? However, in over 690 adoptions, Adoption STAR has only seen four revocations after the child went home with adoptive parents. With the support of the agency each resolved with a healthy plan

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July 1st – It Was Written in the Stars

by Michele Fried In less than a handful of cases in the past 14 years Adoption STAR has experienced informing a family that the birth parent(s) have revoked their surrender upsetting the adoption plan. Though there have been some scares, and a couple of occasions where some legal challenges were necessary, it is rare that a birth parent changes their mind after making adoptive plan. It is also important to remember that not all states provide a time in which a change of mind is permitted. Adoption STAR has documented what the surrender and revocation laws are in place throughout the country and this can be found HERE. When a birth

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