Talking with Children About Adoption – This Author’s View

by Christine Mitchell, author and illustrator Recently my daughter asked me, with a sad expression, “How come babies have to come out of their mom’s tummies?” I wondered if it was bothering her that she did not ‘come from my tummy’. I considered asking her if this was troubling her, but I didn’t want to ‘plant’ an idea if my suspicions were incorrect. If she brings this up again, I plan to say, “Some kids who were adopted are upset that they weren’t in their mommy’s tummy. Is that how you are feeling?” A Fine Line It is a delicate balancing act that we face, as adoptive parents, in talking

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Adoption Awareness: Handling Awkward Adoption Questions and Comments

Text and Illustrations by Christine Mitchell, Written for and Published by Tapestry Books Adoption Questions and Comments are Virtually Inevitable Five-year old Ryan was inconsolable after his cousin, Marissa, exclaimed that his mother wasn’t his real mom because he had been adopted. Ryan’s mother, Natalie, explained to Marissa and Ryan that she is his real mom, because she is the one raising him. Nevertheless, Natalie noticed that her son was hostile to her over the next few days, and she felt sure it was connected to Marissa’s comment. She decided to talk with Ryan about how he was feeling. When Camilla’s friend, Trevor, asked why she had been adopted, she

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