Infertility Part 2 – A Professional Overview

by Kathy Crissey, MS, LMHC Some common issues in working with infertility include but are not limited to the following: Isolation – everyone around you seems to be pregnant or has a baby. When you are struggling with infertility, it seems that all you notice are pregnant women and babies. Everyone seems to be able to become pregnant so easily – why not me? My siblings were all able to have children and being an aunt was wonderful, but watching family members become parents when I could not was less than easy. Resentment – why does it seem so easy for other people to become parents? What did I do

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Infertility – A Personal and Professional Overview Part 1

by Kathy Crissey, MS, LMHC In part 1 of a 2 part blog post, Kathy speaks to her own infertility journey and how it led her to the family she has now. Having been raised in a large family, I never expected anything less than to become a mother. Life, however, has a way of taking us down roads that are totally unexpected. My personal journey through infertility is unique in many ways, but the emotional toll of infertility is a shared experience. The one thing that kept me going throughout it all was my strong desire to parent a child as well as the stubborn side of my personality

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Resources for Family Members of Expectant Parents Making an Adoption Plan

by Kathy Crissey, MS, LMHC Hopes, dreams and expectations – we all have them – not just for ourselves but for our children. What happens when your son or daughter is facing an unexpected pregnancy and is looking for support and guidance?  Where do extended family members turn?  It seems that the focus is on the birth parent and rightfully so. However, swirling around this birth parent are often family members who have their own feelings and needs. A first grandchild – maybe you have dreamed what this would be like and look forward to having this experience. How does an unplanned pregnancy change your hopes and dreams? Maybe this

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Our Home Study is Done – Now What?

by Kathy Crissey, MS, LMHC The home study is done and our profile book is in to the agency – now what? The adoption journey is often one that can seem overwhelming at the beginning and full of things to do. Paperwork, paperwork, and more paperwork. Classes, educational credits, meeting with the social worker and possibly getting a nursery ready are all things that keep you engaged in the adoption process. Then suddenly, everything seems to be done. Now come the questions from caring friends and family, “how is it going?”, “have you heard anything?”, “when do you think you will have a baby?” No matter what you do your

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Poem from a Daughter to her Birth Mother

Adoption STAR’s Director of Adoption Kathy Crissey shares a piece of beautiful poetry that would never have been written without an adult daughter and a birth mother finding each other. This was written by the daughter of a former client of mine who recently passed away. When I worked with the client, she was searching for her daughter whom she had placed at birth. She was able to connect with her and I think the daughter’s words signify the importance of this connection and openness in adoption. – Kathy Crissey, Director of Adoption When I found you my world became complete. I lived every day as a child wondering where

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A Unique Relationship

by Kathy Crissey, MS, LMHC Adoption STAR’s Director of Adoption Kathy Crissey suggests some important considerations for relationship development between prospective adoptive parents and birth parents prior to a potential placement. There may be an opportunity for a relationship to develop between a birth parent(s) and adoptive parent(s) prior to the birth of a child. These beginnings are often the early stages of what will eventually be a life long relationship. The interactions you have will set the stage for further communication and will help all parties involved to begin the process of getting comfortable with each other and getting to know one another. It is safe to say that

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Letter from a Birth Parent to an Adoptive Parent

by Kathy Crissey Adoption STAR’s Director of Adoption Kathy Crissey relies on her years of adoption experience to write a letter from the perspective of a Birth Parent. I am going through a time in my life that is the probably the most difficult time I have ever gone through. I feel alone and I feel judged by everyone around me. I so desperately want to parent this baby I am carrying, but I know in my heart that I cannot give this baby everything I want to. I already feel the pain of having to say goodbye and can’t begin to imagine what it will be like when I

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